April 4, 2017

From my book Choices, Chapter 6

Relationships

Sometimes we just need to grow up. There is a great book called Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman that sheds light on what immature behavior looks like. Maybe read it some time and see what you think. It shares insights into behavioral responses to situations we don’t want to deal with. I’m sure as I describe a few of these you can instantly think of people in your life either at work or home that have demonstrated some of these responses. Or maybe these may be describing you. Like the co-worker who crosses their arms, sits back in their chair and says something like, “well, if that is the direction we want to go in I guess my department will do it but we won’t like it”! Gets up and stomps back to their office like a little kid. What would you say, sounds like 5 year old? Yep, digressing to somewhere from our childhood is a typical immature response. I’ll just take my toys and go home. You see it in body language as people cross their arms, lean back in their chairs and sometimes even roll their eyes. Or how about the leader that explodes and throws a temper tantrum like a 3 year old at the grocery store. These responses are not necessarily caused by issues from your past but more so issues with yourself.

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